When asked "what drives you?" I often revert to what motivates me. My career, which is my passion, of helping, supporting, and encouraging others to strive to feel better mentally, emotionally, and physically. I often remind clients that you don't just feel better overnight, recovery of any type is not linear, and that you have to learn to ride with training wheels before you can take off on a mountain bike. Strive to be just %1 better. Often when I ask client's their goals, they immediately tell me to be %100 better, which yes, is possible, but not in one go. It's a process like anything else. It's a great goal, but it's a big goal, and in order to obtain this one must break their goals into smaller, obtainable goals. Thus, striving to be %1 better each day.
Each day, strive to be better, to do better, than the day prior. Let go of anger and resentment, stop putting such high, potentially unrealistic expectations on yourself. Don't compare yourself to others, to what they have, what they have accomplished, or anything else for that matter. It will make you feel poorly about yourself, and the truth is, the only one you need to worry about, the only one you are truly in competition with, is yourself. We all come from different backgrounds, cultures, lifestyles, we all have different experiences and knowledge. No one can take those things away from you. Take time to learn yourself, ask yourself "who am I?" this may seem like an easy task, but be forwarded, it is more challenging than it appears. Make a list of the things you wish could change, and make them change, %1 better each day, %1 closer to changing yourself for the better. Perhaps you recognize that you are impatient, judgmental, or unmotivated. Maybe you struggle to find motivation, try writing out what you would like to change, and then create obtainable goals to help you make the changes needed. You must be willing to put in the work, and it's almost guaranteed if you do, you will start to notice positive changes.
Every decision we have made to this point has an impact on us, and each decision we make today will impact us tomorrow. If we work on bettering ourselves today, we are almost guaranteed a better tomorrow. Strive for that %1, strive for being your best. Ask yourself what goals you have in place to help you become a better version of you. Recognize all opportunities and interactions as learning opportunities. Check in with yourself, there is no shame in asking yourself, "What could I do better, how can I be better than yesterday, and just %1 each day after today." Often times we don't know our own abilities until there is a mountain placed in front of us, remember that every mountain top is reachable if you just keep climbing. It is often when we are faced with the hardest challenges that we gain more wisdom and insight into how capable we truly are. The goal isn't to be better than anyone else, rather to be better today than yesterday, and to continue being open to growth, feedback, and change.
Don't be afraid to start, to start over, to take chances, a little progress each day leads to big results. Remind yourself daily that you are in control of your happiness, your decisions, your mood, what you allow into your life, your reactions, and that you are simply creating the life that feels good on the inside and looks good on the outside. Allow yourself to shine. Practice patience and gratitude. Wake up, show up, keep moving forward, one foot in front of the other. Allow yourself to believe that anything is possible, be willing to work for it, and stay humble and kind in the process. There are 365 days a year, that gives you 365 days to be and do just a little better. Start each day with a grateful heart, and remember to enjoy the journey.